Also I finished The Bridge season one, and I gotta say I appreciate that show for what it is doing. It highlights some of the issues that are going on in Juarez with missing women, violence, corruption, and the fear that people live with everyday.
People who like to be in control of things can have a hard time with intimacy. Intimacy is anarchic and mutual and definitionally incompatible with control. You seek to control things because you are afraid.